Perspectives on Challenged Family Building

When posted, “My Spouse or Partner Wants to Adopt” noted that there are predominant pre-adoptive expectations:

“I want to help a child in need.”
“I am unable to have children.”
“I heard and ad on the radio.” – “Love will be enough.”
“I know what they have been through.”
“I thought a child would strengthen my marriage.”
“A relative’s child needs [...]

No matter the route, parents arrive at adoption with a set of expectations about what adding a child to their family will mean. Often, these expectations are quite optimistic. A significant goal throughout the adoption process is to help adoptive parents alter their idealistic beliefs and move toward more realistic expectations.
There are many predominant expectations:

“I want [...]